Hi, I'm Selna Kim & We Will Be Going Through A DM Sent By A High Status Member Of #TEAMSK About How He Can Make A Girl Feel Special Who He Messed Up With.
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Here's what the writer has sent in, and my answers are in [BOLD]
"Hey bro I need advice, like, real bad.
My situation is complicated... A lot. So, I was in a relationship with this one girl for a year... And we broke up before Christmas but then in February and March we started to see each other again and we thought that we were going to end up in a relationship again, but I was not in a good mental condition for a long time and then I ghosted her and basically I hurt her feelings and I ended up looking like an idiot.
[When someone comes into my direct messages and says, "we thought we were going to end up in a relationship again" what this tells me is that you might have been pushing slightly for the relationship to happen before she was ready. Men are logical. They are like, "oh she's hot, she's pretty, let's be exclusive." BUT that's not how women work. Women tend to take time falling into love. If you push the relationship, or come off as needy then it tends to take her longer to fall for you.]
And then in June I called her to say that I'm sorry and that I want to apologize and I want to be with her again but she does not trust me that much.
[I think you did the right thing here. If you messed up and you hurt her, but you want her back then you have to fix that and take responsibility for your actions.]
We are seeing each other again and we are having a nice time every single time and things are going as planned and I am gaining her trust again. Slow and steady haha.
I just want to ask you how can I make her feel special again and how do I say in a special way that she is the one.
Because I cant continue in my life without her.
[WHAT? C'mon. What you just said there is that what a high value man would say? You're operating out of a place of fear and scarcity. That's why you are having a hard time getting her. When you are operating from a place of scarcity, you are coming from a place of lack and need. You are telling yourself that I need this to happen or else I'm fucked. Therefore, you try to force it to happen. Life tends to take away what you believe you need to try to make you strong enough to realize you don't need it to make you happy. If you come from a place of lack, you attract more lack into your life.]
I said to her everything that I feel but sometimes she does not trust me that I mean that.
How can I make her feel special and how can I make myself stand out so that she does not see any other guys.
[I hope that you've read my book because I talk about this throughout the book multiple times. But one way to make her feel special is called the A-B routine. Basically you say something along the lines of, "Most girls are A, but you are B." What you are saying is that you are pointing out something in her that is different and unique that most other girls do not have. That's how you make someone feel special. Like most girls don't make you feel how she makes you feel. And you do this through the way you talk to her and what you say. Not by giving her a dumb compliment.]
I saw you tik toks and they are amazing, keep up the good work. ❤️
[Thank you. Keep watching & learning. But if you also want to make her feel differently about you then admit to your fault: "Listen, I realize that I've hurt you and I've messed up. That's in our past and I can't change that. But you can't deny that I've been trying my hardest for you. And yes I will mess up, I won't do everything right, but what I can promise is that I will work my hardest to make sure you know how much I care about you."]
Hopefully you can give me some good advice because I have no one I can ask for advice and I cant express like that in front of my friends and family.
If you want to really get this girl to be yours, then make sure to read Waking The Core Of Man. And also jump into my AMP Installment.**
Good luck stud, >>> Selna Kim