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What To Do When She's Pulling Away...

Hi, I'm Selna Kim & We Will Be Going Through A DM Send By A High Status Member Of #TEAMSK About A Girl Who Is Losing Interest In Him. Here's My Advice Below:

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Here's what the writer has sent in, and my answers are in BOLD

"Hey dude! I've been friends with this girl for about 4 months now and she's shown a lot of interest in me and we were hanging out frequently and talking all the time. After 4 months of being friends, we decided to start dating. About a few weeks after we started dating she showed no interest in me and wasn’t even trying to start conversations which meant I was forced to. She was putting barely any effort into the relationship and only talked to me when she wanted or needed help with something. However, now and then I would get sent TikToks or messages like “ily” but it felt like she didn't mean what she was saying, not to mention whenever I replied she was usually dry or left me on read."

[I already know what the issue is. You are trying way to hard. A lot of guys get into relationships and then they think they give her 'everything' like they talk about in the movies. But this kills the attraction because that's the fastest way to make a girl lose interest. If you stop being the man who attracted her then she will lose interest and fade away as we see below.]

"I've been putting the maximum effort into the relationship and messaging her every day asking if she would like to hang out or face time The responses I’d get we're either “I don't have the time to right now” “I’ll have to postpone because of....” and when she did eventually face time or hang out with me she would say she's bored 20 minutes in and leave.

I've pretty much-tried everything at this point and it seems like she's just losing more feelings as we go on. I've given her many gifts, put everything I have into the relationship, given her numerous love notes telling her how much I love her, offered to spend time with her and talk to her every day, made her a priority. And she still won't show interest. [Dude, is this how an alpha male talks? Or act? Or goes about their life? Look at what you're saying. You think you'll see Harvey Specter, or me, or James Bond talking like this? You're totally falling apart here and acting like a beta male. She's losing interest because she knows she has you. You have to be the puzzle that she can't figure out.]

I'm so confused. [If you're confused it means you're going to learn something.] What did I do wrong or not provide. [You are giving her EVERYTHING but the very thing that she needs. She needs a man. She needs mystery.] What more could I have done for her to go back to the Natalie I truly know and love. The one who would spend 4+ hours hanging out with me and having fun, the one who told me she loved me back, the one who as willing try to start conversations with me, who wasn’t always busy and didn’t get bored of me, the one who missed me when I was gone, who apologized for the simplest inconveniences, and the one who completely loved me back no matter what. [You have to go back to injecting the triggers that make her attracted. That make her feel 'love'. Instead of completely turning into a beta male for her. If you need help with that you either need to jump into my class, The AMP INSTALLMENT or my book. But you need to turn things around before it's too late. You need to go back to making her chase you. The thing about relationships is that they are a constant process and a constant test for men. When a man becomes complacent, the woman pulls away.]

I really cant help it but I still love her back after all of this and am obsessed with her. [Dude, quit talking like this. You're a man.] Please let me know what I should do in order to see the aforementioned version of herself, anything you say will really help out.

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